The Differences Between the Sexes – Men vs. Women

Join Dr. John and Dr. Elizabeth Kearney for a rousing talk about a politically incorrect topic – the differences between the sexes. How do men and women differ in their approach to problem-solving? How are we different in the way in which we pursue goals? How are we different in our use of language?

Elizabeth Kearney, Ph.D. who specializes in strategic planning, effective leadership, and staff development training. This award-winning author and professor was a John Hopkins Fellow, and three of her books – Customers Run Your Company: They Pay the Bills, Everyone is a Customer, and People Power: Reading People for Results were Fortune Book-of-the-Month Club selections. Her latest book, Women Who Paved the Way, was introduced in November of 2005. Liz was selected in 2003 & 2004 as Businesswoman of the Year by the National Business Advisory Council.

Guide To Self can be heard every Monday through Friday on KDIA 1640 AM in San Francisco Bay Area from 5 – 5:30 PM. Check out more shows at http://www.GuideToSelf.com. (925) 944-3440.

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The Secret to a Lasting Marriage – Correct 91% of the time!

Dealing with Disagreement for Couples
Dr. John Schinnerer
Guide To Self
(925) 944-3440
www.GuideToSelf.com

Cupid may help people fall in love, but he fails miserably when it comes to helping couples remain in love. That’s because the degree to which you love someone, amazingly, has little to do with how long your relationship lasts. The biggest secret to a happy relationship has to do with how well you deal with your conflicts.

Researchers can accurately determine if a couple will divorce by watching them talk about their differences for just five minutes. Using this little chunk of information, researchers are correct 91% of the time in uncovering those relationships that will endure versus those that will crash and burn.

In partnerships headed for divorce, a woman typically brings up an difficult topic by criticizing her husband. For instance, when the woman wants her spouse to fix the sink, she might say “You never do anything around the house.” The husband usually responds by getting negative and blaming his wife with comments like, “What are you – stupid!? You don’t appreciate all that I do! I never sit down.” And so on down the road to divorce.

If you want to keep your marriage intact, find a healthy way to communicate.

To keep your relationships going strong, I recommend these emotional tools:

1. USE “I” STATEMENTS WHEN TELLING ABOUT THE PROBLEM:

When you’re upset with your spouse, begin the conversation at a low level of intensity. Don’t start by with an attack. Instead use the I statements. Start by explaining how you feel and why you feel that way. Follow it up with what you need your spouse to do. For instance, “I’m frustrated by everything I have to do. The house is a mess and we have guests coming over tonight. I need your help picking up the house.”

2. STAY CALM WHILE LISTENING TO THE PROBLEM:

When your spouse tells you what’s wrong, stay calm. Fight the automatic urge to attack. Instead, ask your partner to be specific about what he or she wants like, “What do you need me to do?” If you’re too mad to be respectful, take time to calm down — go for a walk, watch TV, go to bed — before talking again. It’s always helpful to have a standing time out rule where anyone can take a break from a disagreement because they are too angry or emotional to continue. Nothing will get resolved if one or both of you are angry. First, get past the anger, then solve the dispute.

The Happiness Hypothesis – Dr. John Schinnerer Talks to Dr. Jon Haidt

Dr. John Schinnerer talks with Dr. Jonathan Haidt, author of “The Happiness Hypothesis: Why the Meaningful Life is Closer Than You Think.” Jon is a professor at the University of Virginia. And his book is about ten Great Ideas. Each chapter is an attempt to appreciate one idea that has been discovered by several of the world’s civilizations: to question it in light of what we now know from scientific research, and to extract from it the lessons that still apply to our modern lives. It is a book about how to construct a life of virtue, happiness, fulfillment, and meaning.

Some of the questions asked include…

You use metaphors effectively to help readers understand complex ideas. Would you tell us about your rider (conscious mind) and the elephant (unconscious, emotional mind) metaphor?

You write that we are all hypocrites and so it’s quite hard for us to stick to the Golden Rule. Why are we so hypocritical?

What about the happiness hypothesis? Where do you think happiness comes from?

What are your thoughts about Nietszche’s statement, “what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger?”

How have our concepts of values and morality changed over the years?

Listen in to Dr. John Schinnerer every Monday through Friday on KDIA 1640 AM in the SF Bay Area. http://www.guidetoself.com.
Duration:27 minutes, 38 seconds


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What men really want from women

Dr. John Schinnerer, host of Guide To Self radio, speaks with Charlene Proctor, author of Let Your Goddess Grow! Charlene speaks out on female empowerment, the lure of What the Bleep Do We Know and the need to cultivate the female divine. Find out how to improve your self-image as a woman, what men really want from women and much more.

Guide to Self radio airs on KDIA 1640 AM in San Francisco, CA. More shows are available on http://www.guidetoself.com. Dr. John Schinnerer
is available as time permits for individual life coaching towards a happy and passionate life at (925) 944-3440. Keynote speaking
engagement inquiries for Dr. John can be directed to Info@GuideToSelf.com.
Duration:27 minutes, 56 seconds


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How to Become More Resilient or How to Bounce Back from Hardships

Some exciting news from the Mount Sinai School of Medicine (one of the top medical schools in the world) about resiliency. Dr. Dennis Charney recently presented critical new information as a result of his studies with Prisoners Of War (POWs). Dr. Charney has spent years looking at how at soldiers who fought in the Vietnam war, were taken prisoner, tortured and beaten for 6-8 years, and came out of it psychologically healthy. How do you manage that? That very information is shared in the second half of this show. Dr. John Schinnerer on Guide To Self Radio. KDIA 1640 AM Monday – Friday at 5 pm. www.GuideToSelf.com Dr. John is available to help increase your resiliency at (925) 944-3440.
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