14. July 2009 by John Schinnerer.

Fantastic new article in Scientific American by Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky

‘New research reveals a better way to boost happiness than counting blessings–imagining that the good things never happened’

‘The researchers show that people prompted to write about how a positive event may not have happened experience a greater uptick in mood than those prompted to describe the positive event.  In their most persuasive study, individuals in committed relationships wrote for 15 to 20 minutes about how they might never have met and connected with their partners. Others wrote instead about the reverse – that is, how they did meet, start dating, and end up with their partners. Several control conditions, which involved writing about one’s typical day or about one’s friendships, were included as well. The biggest increase in satisfaction with the relationship occurred not in the group that pondered the sunny beginnings of their union but in the “mental subtraction” (or “How I might never have met Peter”) group.’http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=what-if-id-never-husband&sc=CAT_MB_20090714

Enjoy!

Dr. John Schinnerer

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14. July 2009 by John Schinnerer.

RAISING RESILIENT, OPTIMISTIC CHILDREN 

Does your child give up easily?Does your child get frustrated frequently?Is your child pessimistic?If you answered ‘YES’ to any of these questions, you owe it to yourself to attend this presentation. 

Dr. John Schinnerer, a UC Berkeley-trained psychologist and award-winning author will share the latest methods to raise children to lead happy, thriving, meaningful lives on July 15th 2009 at 6:30 pm at the Alameda Library to help kick off the Alameda Light Opera Company’s run of the musical Annie. 

Learn how you can teach your children to be realistically optimistic, so they:¨      get better grades¨      are more resilient¨      achieve in keeping with their ability¨      stay calm under pressure¨      have more friends 

Cost: Free

Time: 6:30 pm Place: Alameda Library

Date: Wednesday, July 15^th, 2009

In conjunction with the Alameda Light Opera Company

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